Relationship 101

Common Decency Is No Longer Common

-Don't bear dead weight. That is the job of casket bearers. If its dead, Let it be. Every demon inhabits their own hell.
-If someone treats you as a mistake, let reality do the heavy lifting when you know you are in the right. Only a sociopath feels no remorse or regret.
-Hate is the easy road, and carrying grudges indicative of a weaker nature unfit for survival.
-Passive abuse is still abuse. People who excuse their own actions via situations really believe in a sort of ethics that is not worthy of the term. Anyone playing the victim card is a few aces short of a full deck. Pity is a dangerous emotion in either direction
-Sometimes forgiving is the only route for a mature person. If you can't do this, good luck in life because life itself can be far harsher than anything one person can do to you
-Heuristics are useful. If someone does not fit what you know to be a rationally and healthy reaction, hit the road and refer them to a professional.
-Sharing your body with someone and then never speaking to them is generally a sick setup. Death is final. Cutting people off right and left is a great way to lock yourself in the very negative states of mind that produce personal and interpersonal problems. Self-fulfilling prophecy is a sad truth. If you talk to no one you have dated, this usually means there are two sides to the coin and perhaps you are part of the problem.
-If you throw someone away, do not be surprised when they move on. Only children at the pre-operational stage are incapable of realizing actions do not have consequences. If someone gives you their best and you give them your worst, don be surprised when they figure out they might deserve something better.
-Take care when you have someone's heart. If you lack the ability to pick up on emotional ques from someone you are sleeping with, take steps to increase emotional intellect.
-Don't mess with someone's ego or money. People are not means to an end, and if you treat someone like something that has expended its value, you will likely get a bad reaction.
- A fight is a nice dance in which two angry people prove just how bad that state of mind is
-Get an animal before you expect unconditional love
-Apologies, when issued, should be given a chance. There is no interaction between two people that will not include hurdles.
-If someone is hurt when a break up happens, it means they cared. For all you know, you were a peak experience. Be careful who you seek advice from in these situations because it could be that those you rely upon were never able to form the attachment you are severing. Do not treat an uncommonly good partner like something common.
-Time will put everything in perspective. It may take a lot of time, but if you are a functioning person with a conscience you will not forget the wrongs you have done another person. Honor promotes good sleep. Only death is final and if you seek this kind of end with someone who loves you, you will likely end up dying alone or relying on your own children to care for you when they themselves should be living which you never learned to do.
-Pulling away from another person in stress means that you are only capable of being a good person during fair weather times. People are supposed to grow together, and anyone using variations of the 'its not you, its me' approach are still stuck in the teenage years mentally. Don't be surprised when you end up with more of the same when you demolish that which was different.
-If you have been single for a long time, take care to re-develop those skills with the person you are with. Real love is a learned thing especially in regards to romance, and what one sees as a child from one's parents will set the course for what one thinks is healthy.
-feelings change. All things have impermanence. But don't expect anything genuine to go away on a whim. Common dating advice is only fit for common people.
-If genuine emotion scares someone away, or you think it might, that should scare you away from them. Fantasy and reality are very different in this regard. If you seek an endless platonic ideal in a partner you will miss out on many genuine people along the way.
-Love is different in each interaction. Do not waste time on romantic notions of the past.
-Break ups are isolating times, but only a malicious person does so in a manner which is disrespectful and takes none of the other person's needs into account.